Tuesday, 28 August 2012

How music says so much more

 

Sometimes the lyrics of a song carry deeper meaning than just the words

On Saturday morning I was woken by the alarm clock at 7.00am. This is not usually the case on a Saturday but a kind neighbour with a trailer was helping me to move surplus items to our Local Recycling Centre (used to be the dump!) and he had asked for an early start.

 

I lay listening to music

As I thought about the items to consign to the tip, I began to notice how the lyrics of the songs told stories about the state of relationships. They revealed the inner thoughts of the people in those relationships. And they spoke to me on so many levels about the power of our emotions and the importance of our relationships. In many songs the lyrics point out the deep need we all have to be 'special' in someone's eyes and in their heart. Many yearn for just such a person to come into our life. Others wonder if the person we have just found is 'the one', while others lament the fact that they definitely were not 'the one'!   

 

'And who am I to tell you?'

My attention was particularly caught by Daniel Dove's song: And who am I to tell you. Singer, Will Young, acknowledges how important it is for his lover to be told they are loved and are 'special'. Yet he doubts his own value to be loved and to have someone so special in his life. The chorus puts it this way:-
And who am I to tell you that I would never let you down, That no-one else could love you half as much as I do now, And who am I to tell you I'll always catch you when you fall, Well I, I wouldn't be myself at all, I wouldn't be myself at all, at all.

 

Meeting our lover's needs

Do you find it frustrating when you do your best to treat your 'significant' other in the best way possible only to discover they want and need to be treated differently?  
The difference that makes the difference is in not quite as the old proverb:
  • 'do unto others as you would like them to do unto you' 
what is really needed is to: 
  • 'do unto others as they want to be done to'. 
 If you haven't really listened you'll have no idea how to do this. 
It's not as though I always listen
But there's just so much I don't hear
Which is why communication and especially listening are key skills we 'teach' many of our couples.
  • First they need to be listened to
  • Very few people can hear another's pain until their own has been aired

What songs move you? 

Have a listen to the YouTube version complete with the words.(Click on video link at the top of this post). What do you think?
Please leave your comments and thoughts below.
 As ever if this raises some of you own issues please get in touch,

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